Pros & Cons of online dating

What are the benefits of online dating compared to traditional dating? This post analyses just a few. As you can imagine I’m all for using the Internet for finding partners or a partner – I’ve been doing it years and probably a dab hand at it too.

It’s fun, exciting to meet new people, challenging – some people need better socializing skills.

So here are some pros & cons of online dating.

The pros of online dating:
• The variety is almost limitless.

• No matter your background you can almost guaranteed to find a match.

• You can arrange group meetings instead individual ones.

• You can meet people based on career, qualifications, looks or any other criteria.

• You can find potential partners with similar interests.

• Online dating is safe and secure when used with a little common sense.

• Many sites cater for disabilities.

• It can be fun: imagine meeting a millionaire?

• In most cases it’s affordable and low cost.

• If you have a particular background, you can almost definitely find some one with a similar background too.

• You don’t nee to meet people internationally or nationally, you can almost certain find some one locally.

• You can just search for friends and not just partners.

• It’s very easy to do: simply create a profile, place it on the online dating site and start emailing other members.

• Many dating sites include instant messaging, flirting, photo exchanging, etc.

• Meet the type of people you want

• Options on many sites allow you to join for just a few days, a week, a month, quarterly or even a year.
• If don’t connect with the first person you meet there’s always plenty more fish in online dating sea.
• Searching for like-minded people is easy as this is one of the options available on virtually all sites.

The cons of online dating; there aren’t many!• You can’t see the person you are emailing.
• It’s easy to pretend to be some one else as identity is not verified.
• Rarely, because of the anonymous nature of the Web, it does attract some undesirable characters.

• On most sites you have to pay a fee; there are some free ones like www.muslimrishtye.com but most are not too great.

• It can be nervous meeting some one off the Internet you have never seen before.
• Some times it can be time-consuming.

If you’re aware of any more pros and cons of online dating, please email them to me. As mentioned, there are so many pros to internet dating that it is suitable for almost everyone no matter what their background, religion, status, views, etc.

Tips for Online Dating / Match Making

Recent survey indicated that over 40 million singles have used or are currently using online dating / Match Making services. It’s a huge business that has ushered in a whole new era of match making with its own unique set of rules.

Here’s some quick internet dating tips. As always, take them with a pitch salt and have a great time using the Net to meet like-minded people – it’s about fun not advice.
• Decide first on want you want from online dating sites: marriage, long-term partner, quick fling, friends or for some fun?

• Read reviews of different – almost all site reviews; just search for them

• Decide if a particular site is within your budget – don’t be fooled by ‘Join for a buck for thee days. Believe me you can’t much in three days, Join some free online match making site like www.muslimrishtey.com

• Personally, if you can afford it I would recommend join at least two internet dating site, because, that way you’re more likely to meet more people and as a consequence achieve your goals quicker

• I’m sure you are aware: never give out any personal information whatsoever until you are completely satisfied the personal you are in contact with is trustworthy

• Before meeting some one, tell your friends and relatives of your intentions, and tell them where you are going.


Of course you know about online dating safety and how to protect yourself from unwanted attention. But do you know the unwritten rules, the tips and tricks that will make your online dating experience much better?

Keep Your Expectations Low
It has been estimated that 96% of the people who use online dating services fail to find a compatible person with whom to have a dating relationship. Part of the reason for this, though, is that most people approach online matchmaking with unrealistic expectations. When they don’t find a perfect match after one or two dates they give up and try something else.

Despite what the advertising wants you to believe, your perfect match isn’t going to just fall out of the sky one day. It takes diligent searching, careful screening, and lots of dates to increase your chances of success. Keep your expectations low key; don’t set yourself up for failure by getting too excited when you see an interesting profile or meet an interesting person.

Don’t Respond Too Quickly
Most online dating services won’t tell you this because they make money from email messages between members, but don’t be too quick to answer when a message comes in. Many online dating experts suggest waiting 24 to 48 hours to respond, and also say never to respond on a weekend or holiday. Their reasoning is that when you respond too quickly it makes you appear desperate and also doesn’t allow you to pause and carefully compose an appropriate response.

Yes, it’s exciting when someone notices your profile and makes contact, but don’t let the excitement run away with you. Relax, take a deep breath, and if necessary refer back to the previous section on maintaining realistic expectations.

Keep It Light
When you answer an email, keep the tone light and friendly. Online messages are NOT an appropriate avenue for providing your entire life history or unloading about your past hurts and current emotional state. Don’t be shallow and flip, of course, but do be conservative with what you write. And, as always, don’t reveal personally identifiable information via online messages.

Don’t Drag Things Along
Once you have exchanged a few messages, it’s time to either meet in person or move on. As a general rule of thumb, if more than three to five messages have been exchanged and you haven’t set up a date yet, then it’s time to say goodbye. Don’t allow yourself to be sucked into email communications that drag on for weeks or months at a time. Email is not a substitute for meeting and getting acquainted in person.

Tell The Truth
One of the great temptations of online personal ads is to embellish the truth about you. Whether it’s shaving a few years off your age, overstating your career achievements, or understating your body weight, remember that the truth will be revealed once you meet someone in person. It’s pointless to lie about such things and it undermines trust right from the start.


please email them to me. As mentioned, there are so many pros to internet dating that it is suitable for almost everyone no matter what their background, religion, status, views, etc.

There are just some simple internet dating tips! Dating should be enjoyable and a new experience, so treat is that way – and have a great time too.

Nikah

The first part of the marriage ceremony, Muslim Nikah, is the signing of the marriage contract itself. This contract requires the consent of both parties if they are adults. In Islam, marriage is a legal bond and social contract between a man and a woman as prompted by the Shari'a. A woman may propose marriage to a man directly or through an intermediary. Marriage is a social obligation and is registered by the qadhi / qazi who performs the short ceremony.

Nikah is a solemn and sacred social contract between bride and groom. This contract is a strong covenant as expressed in Quran (4:21). The marriage contract in Islam is not a sacrament. It is revocable.

Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of their liking and make them a part of this contract.

Nikah Sermon
The assembly of Nikah is addressed with a Niakh Sermon (khutba-tun-nikah) by the Muslim officiating the marriage. In marriage societies, customarily, a state appointed Muslim judge (Qadhi/ qazi) officiates the nikah ceremony and keeps the record of the marriage contract. However any trust worthy practicing Muslim can conduct the nikah ceremony, as Islam does not advocate priesthood. The documents of marriage contract/certificate are filed with the mosque (masjid) and local government for record.

Prophet Muhammad (S) made it his tradition (sunnah) to have Nikah sermon delivered in the assembly to solemnize the marriage. The sermon invites the bride and the groom, as well as the participating guests in the assembly to a life of piety, mutual love, kindness, and social responsibility.

The Khutbah-tun-Nikah begins with the praise of Allah. His help and guidance is sought. The Muslim confession of faith that 'There is none worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammad is His servant and messenger" is declared. The three Quranic verses (Quran 4:1, 3:102, 33:70-71) and one Prophetic saying (hadith) form the main text of the marriage.

This hadith is: 'By Allah! Among all of you I am the most God-fearing, and among you all, I am the super most to save myself from the wrath of Allah, yet my state is that I observe prayer and sleep too. I observe fast and suspend observing them; I marry woman also. And he who turns away from my Sunnah has no relation with me". (Bukhari).

Nikah is considered as an act of worship (ibadah). It is virtuous to conduct it in a Mosque keeping the ceremony simple. The marriage ceremony is a social as well as a religious activity. Islam advocates simplicity in ceremonies and celebrations.

Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings, 'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is bestowed". (Mishkat)

Primary Requirements of Nikah
1) Mutual agreement (Ijab-O-Qubul) by the bride and the groom
2) Two adult and sane witnesses
3) Mahr (marriage-gift) to be paid by the groom to the bride either immediately (muajjal) or deferred (muakhkhar), or a combination of both

Secondary Requirements of Nikah
1) Legal guardian (wakeel) representing the bride
2) Written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) signed by the bride and the groom and witnesses by two adult and sane witnesses
3) Qadi (State appointed Muslim judge) or Ma'zoon (a responsible person officiating the marriage ceremony)
4) Khutba-tun-Nikah to solemnize the marriage