Pros & Cons of online dating

What are the benefits of online dating compared to traditional dating? This post analyses just a few. As you can imagine I’m all for using the Internet for finding partners or a partner – I’ve been doing it years and probably a dab hand at it too.

It’s fun, exciting to meet new people, challenging – some people need better socializing skills.

So here are some pros & cons of online dating.

The pros of online dating:
• The variety is almost limitless.

• No matter your background you can almost guaranteed to find a match.

• You can arrange group meetings instead individual ones.

• You can meet people based on career, qualifications, looks or any other criteria.

• You can find potential partners with similar interests.

• Online dating is safe and secure when used with a little common sense.

• Many sites cater for disabilities.

• It can be fun: imagine meeting a millionaire?

• In most cases it’s affordable and low cost.

• If you have a particular background, you can almost definitely find some one with a similar background too.

• You don’t nee to meet people internationally or nationally, you can almost certain find some one locally.

• You can just search for friends and not just partners.

• It’s very easy to do: simply create a profile, place it on the online dating site and start emailing other members.

• Many dating sites include instant messaging, flirting, photo exchanging, etc.

• Meet the type of people you want

• Options on many sites allow you to join for just a few days, a week, a month, quarterly or even a year.
• If don’t connect with the first person you meet there’s always plenty more fish in online dating sea.
• Searching for like-minded people is easy as this is one of the options available on virtually all sites.

The cons of online dating; there aren’t many!• You can’t see the person you are emailing.
• It’s easy to pretend to be some one else as identity is not verified.
• Rarely, because of the anonymous nature of the Web, it does attract some undesirable characters.

• On most sites you have to pay a fee; there are some free ones like www.muslimrishtye.com but most are not too great.

• It can be nervous meeting some one off the Internet you have never seen before.
• Some times it can be time-consuming.

If you’re aware of any more pros and cons of online dating, please email them to me. As mentioned, there are so many pros to internet dating that it is suitable for almost everyone no matter what their background, religion, status, views, etc.

Tips for Online Dating / Match Making

Recent survey indicated that over 40 million singles have used or are currently using online dating / Match Making services. It’s a huge business that has ushered in a whole new era of match making with its own unique set of rules.

Here’s some quick internet dating tips. As always, take them with a pitch salt and have a great time using the Net to meet like-minded people – it’s about fun not advice.
• Decide first on want you want from online dating sites: marriage, long-term partner, quick fling, friends or for some fun?

• Read reviews of different – almost all site reviews; just search for them

• Decide if a particular site is within your budget – don’t be fooled by ‘Join for a buck for thee days. Believe me you can’t much in three days, Join some free online match making site like www.muslimrishtey.com

• Personally, if you can afford it I would recommend join at least two internet dating site, because, that way you’re more likely to meet more people and as a consequence achieve your goals quicker

• I’m sure you are aware: never give out any personal information whatsoever until you are completely satisfied the personal you are in contact with is trustworthy

• Before meeting some one, tell your friends and relatives of your intentions, and tell them where you are going.


Of course you know about online dating safety and how to protect yourself from unwanted attention. But do you know the unwritten rules, the tips and tricks that will make your online dating experience much better?

Keep Your Expectations Low
It has been estimated that 96% of the people who use online dating services fail to find a compatible person with whom to have a dating relationship. Part of the reason for this, though, is that most people approach online matchmaking with unrealistic expectations. When they don’t find a perfect match after one or two dates they give up and try something else.

Despite what the advertising wants you to believe, your perfect match isn’t going to just fall out of the sky one day. It takes diligent searching, careful screening, and lots of dates to increase your chances of success. Keep your expectations low key; don’t set yourself up for failure by getting too excited when you see an interesting profile or meet an interesting person.

Don’t Respond Too Quickly
Most online dating services won’t tell you this because they make money from email messages between members, but don’t be too quick to answer when a message comes in. Many online dating experts suggest waiting 24 to 48 hours to respond, and also say never to respond on a weekend or holiday. Their reasoning is that when you respond too quickly it makes you appear desperate and also doesn’t allow you to pause and carefully compose an appropriate response.

Yes, it’s exciting when someone notices your profile and makes contact, but don’t let the excitement run away with you. Relax, take a deep breath, and if necessary refer back to the previous section on maintaining realistic expectations.

Keep It Light
When you answer an email, keep the tone light and friendly. Online messages are NOT an appropriate avenue for providing your entire life history or unloading about your past hurts and current emotional state. Don’t be shallow and flip, of course, but do be conservative with what you write. And, as always, don’t reveal personally identifiable information via online messages.

Don’t Drag Things Along
Once you have exchanged a few messages, it’s time to either meet in person or move on. As a general rule of thumb, if more than three to five messages have been exchanged and you haven’t set up a date yet, then it’s time to say goodbye. Don’t allow yourself to be sucked into email communications that drag on for weeks or months at a time. Email is not a substitute for meeting and getting acquainted in person.

Tell The Truth
One of the great temptations of online personal ads is to embellish the truth about you. Whether it’s shaving a few years off your age, overstating your career achievements, or understating your body weight, remember that the truth will be revealed once you meet someone in person. It’s pointless to lie about such things and it undermines trust right from the start.


please email them to me. As mentioned, there are so many pros to internet dating that it is suitable for almost everyone no matter what their background, religion, status, views, etc.

There are just some simple internet dating tips! Dating should be enjoyable and a new experience, so treat is that way – and have a great time too.

Nikah

The first part of the marriage ceremony, Muslim Nikah, is the signing of the marriage contract itself. This contract requires the consent of both parties if they are adults. In Islam, marriage is a legal bond and social contract between a man and a woman as prompted by the Shari'a. A woman may propose marriage to a man directly or through an intermediary. Marriage is a social obligation and is registered by the qadhi / qazi who performs the short ceremony.

Nikah is a solemn and sacred social contract between bride and groom. This contract is a strong covenant as expressed in Quran (4:21). The marriage contract in Islam is not a sacrament. It is revocable.

Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride and groom have the liberty to define various terms and conditions of their liking and make them a part of this contract.

Nikah Sermon
The assembly of Nikah is addressed with a Niakh Sermon (khutba-tun-nikah) by the Muslim officiating the marriage. In marriage societies, customarily, a state appointed Muslim judge (Qadhi/ qazi) officiates the nikah ceremony and keeps the record of the marriage contract. However any trust worthy practicing Muslim can conduct the nikah ceremony, as Islam does not advocate priesthood. The documents of marriage contract/certificate are filed with the mosque (masjid) and local government for record.

Prophet Muhammad (S) made it his tradition (sunnah) to have Nikah sermon delivered in the assembly to solemnize the marriage. The sermon invites the bride and the groom, as well as the participating guests in the assembly to a life of piety, mutual love, kindness, and social responsibility.

The Khutbah-tun-Nikah begins with the praise of Allah. His help and guidance is sought. The Muslim confession of faith that 'There is none worthy of worship except Allah and Muhammad is His servant and messenger" is declared. The three Quranic verses (Quran 4:1, 3:102, 33:70-71) and one Prophetic saying (hadith) form the main text of the marriage.

This hadith is: 'By Allah! Among all of you I am the most God-fearing, and among you all, I am the super most to save myself from the wrath of Allah, yet my state is that I observe prayer and sleep too. I observe fast and suspend observing them; I marry woman also. And he who turns away from my Sunnah has no relation with me". (Bukhari).

Nikah is considered as an act of worship (ibadah). It is virtuous to conduct it in a Mosque keeping the ceremony simple. The marriage ceremony is a social as well as a religious activity. Islam advocates simplicity in ceremonies and celebrations.

Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings, 'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is bestowed". (Mishkat)

Primary Requirements of Nikah
1) Mutual agreement (Ijab-O-Qubul) by the bride and the groom
2) Two adult and sane witnesses
3) Mahr (marriage-gift) to be paid by the groom to the bride either immediately (muajjal) or deferred (muakhkhar), or a combination of both

Secondary Requirements of Nikah
1) Legal guardian (wakeel) representing the bride
2) Written marriage contract ("Aqd-Nikah) signed by the bride and the groom and witnesses by two adult and sane witnesses
3) Qadi (State appointed Muslim judge) or Ma'zoon (a responsible person officiating the marriage ceremony)
4) Khutba-tun-Nikah to solemnize the marriage

Wedding Card

Everything about your wedding, starting with your wedding cards, should reflect your own personal style. Now, more than ever, couples are doing everything they can to make their wedding day uniquely personalized.


You and your fiancé chose the location, theme and colours of your wedding based on your personal preferences. Since your wedding Cards are an introduction to your wedding, they should reflect your choices and ultimately your personalities and styles.

It used to be that wedding cards were always very traditional in their colour and appearance. Today, wedding invitations come in a vast array of exciting colours, styles, sizes and themes to reflect the creativity of modern wedding couples.

Not to say traditional is out of date, but today your options are truly unlimited. There are choices based on seasons, hobbies, colour combinations, themes, ceremony locations, ethnic backgrounds, flowers, etc. Your wedding card can have a modern contemporary look or they might feature photos of youngsters sharing tender moments.

Your choices don't end with the Wedding Cards itself. There's the font style and ink color. Again, there is an impressive selection of font styles to fit any type of wedding design. Just keep in mind you want to choose a style that your guests will find easy to read. The more script the style, the more difficult it usually is to read. Colored ink choices are not quite as abundant as font styles, but there are still plenty to accommodate your chosen wedding colors.

Wedding Card Text
Your WEDDING CARD wording will depend on both your preferences and who will be paying for the wedding. Typically, if the bride's parents are paying, it is considered that they are doing the hosting or inviting. If the couple is paying, parents can still be listed but not necessarily as doing the inviting but instead as "daughter of" and "son of". When both parents are paying, they can both be listed as inviting. As far as divorced and/or step parents, it is a personal preference as to how they might be incorporated into the wedding invitation wording, if at all.

You want your wedding card to be perfect. Remember, your invitation will give your guests their first glimpse of your wedding - will it be formal or informal; is there is a special theme.


Traditionally, all wedding invitations come with two envelopes--inner and outer. Both envelopes should be addressed in handwriting versus being typed. The hand writing should be in black or blue ink and both envelopes should be in the same handwriting.

Wedding Card Inner Envelopes
Used primarily with formal wedding invitations, the un gummed inner envelope is simply addressed "Mr. and Mrs. Smith". First names and address are omitted. These are also the envelopes that will contain a colored lining if that is your choice for an additional cost.

Most printed wedding invitations arrive flat and need to be folded before you can begin assembling wedding card inserts. If tissue paper is included with your order, place one sheet of it so it covers the wording which could be inside or on top depending on the style of your invitation. All other enclosures will then also be either tucked inside the folded invitation or placed on top if it's a single card & on top of the piece of tissue paper. Here is the suggested order to follow when assembling wedding invitation pieces:

1. Reception Card (if included) right on top of the tissue paper with its wording facing you.

2. Response Card is tucked underneath the flap of the respond envelope with the printing facing you making it one enclosure. Place on top of Reception Card (or tissue paper if Reception Card is not included). The top of the envelope should be in the fold of the invitation (if applicable). Don't forget to put a stamp on the respond envelope or respond postcard.

Pakistani Wedding Fashion

Usually when you talk about Pakistani Wedding Fashion the first thing comes in mind is "ladies". There are many different types of fashion in these days. When it comes to Pakistani Weddings Fashion, that is when the real fashion shows up, for instance special clothes, jewelry, and other accessories such as henna. Even though modern Pakistanis are following the American or western culture, they still have a lot of values for their own culture as well.

Pakistani Wedding Fashion - Bride
The Pakistani bride, no matter which cultural background she comes from, is famous for her elaborate and exquisite Pakistani bridal dress and jewellery. The long flowing dupatta or veil is heavily worked with painstaking patterns in sequins, beads, and gold or silver thread. The long skirt is made of traditional silk or brocade. The jewellery consists of the traditional nath (nose ring) and the forehead is adorned with a tika along with all the other adornments. The traditional colour is red, but any other colour is also acceptable. A Pakistani bride may also wear a sari or shalwar kurta according to the family tradition.

There's a reason why the first thing a Pakistani and Indian bride does after the proposal is look for the perfect Wedding Wear. The Wedding Dress is the formal attire she'll be wearing during the wedding album shoot and it's something to be commemorated for the rest of her life. She wants to look gorgeous and radiant.

On the first day, which is Mehndi, she wears very casual dress. The reason she wears casual dress because she has all of her family and all of her friends there and during that time they joke with her and have a little food fight sometimes if permitted by bride's parents. So by the end of that night all the clothes are very messy.

On the second day that is Nikkah, the bride wears either pink or red dress with gold touch. That dress is very expensive, this dress in provided by bride's mother to her daughter as a goodbye gift.

On the third day that is also called Waleema, the bride wears a very nice heavy dress. Groom’s family or his mother as a welcome gift provides this dress. Bride wears that dress on the last day of the wedding ceremony when she is in her husband's house.

Jewellery has one of the most important roles in Pakistani Wedding Fashion. There are different types of jewelry, which brides wear during the wedding. That is usually very heavy jewelry. For example bride usually wear TAJ crown on their heads. The Taj is made out of heavy 24 karate gold and also has diamonds in there.

The second thing is Bindiya on forehead which is usually attached with either her hair or with her scarf. The third thing is called Jhumkay it the bigger version of the earrings. This is usually the biggest piece of jewelry which bride wears on her wedding. It is mostly very long sometimes as long as her dress. This carries diamonds and ruby and is also made out of gold.

Bride also wears a nice ring which is also either white gold or regular gold and has a very big diamond in it. This is the smallest piece of the jewelry on the bride. The last part is anklets. That is the most fragile piece of the jewelry bride wears. All the stuff mention above is what usually brides wear during their marriage

We could not conclude Pakistani wedding fashion is henna; One of the things except jewellery that adds more beauty to the bride is called Henna; it originally started from the Arabia and moved on to different part of the world. It is also deeply involve in Islamic culture.

On the day of Mehndi, bride's friends or sometimes professional girls in Henna come to bride's home and put all the design on her hands. It has a lot of different designs now day people use computers to make different types of designs. These designs usually stay on for about a week.

Pakistani Wedding Fashion - Men
One of the big sections in the Pakistani weddings Fashion is male fashion. For that groom must go to the designer who is specialized in wedding fashion for men. He usually chose what kind dress, watch, shoes, and bracelet, and kind of ring he should wear during what day of the wedding. It usually is expensive to go there to get all this important stuff done.

First day of the wedding, which is called Mehndi, the groom usually wears any kind of casual clothes. During the Mehndi his clothes usually gets ruined because all of his family and friends put all kind of stuff on him as a joke in pre-celebration.

On the second day during Nikkah the groom usually wears traditional dress called Shalwar Kameez and matching vest (sherwani) with the traditional shoes called Khussa. On this day the groom goes to girl's house for the first time.

Sherwani is long coat, buttoned up in front with ban collars. The sherwani falls well below the knees, and looks elegant especially if the groom is tall. The sherwanis are available in many colors. Mostly off-white, beige, cream shades are more popular in men.

The third dress is usually black color pant suite and black shoes on the day of Waleema the day when the groom side does there after celebration of the wedding at groom's house. In some cases some people still would wear the traditional dress to keep the tradition.

Male jewellery is also an important part in Pakistan wedding fashion. Grooms usually do not have to wear as much jewellery as brides do, but at the same time it is part of the custom to wear gold ring, which is always provided by the bride side. The other major thing they must wear is nice nickels and a bracelet. This brings more personality to the groom's looks.